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How to tell young kids about your divorce

On Behalf of | Jan 3, 2022 | Family Law

If you are a parent, your paramount concern is your children’s well-being. Because divorce can damage the emotional and psychological states of kids, you must be careful how you explain the end of your marriage to the youngest ones in your family. Still, like their older siblings, they have a right to know about your divorce.

Your strategy for talking to your kids about your divorce probably depends on their age. If they are 5 or younger, the following tips help may be helpful.

Provide constant nurturing care

Young children have self-centric personalities, so your kids may worry about abandonment. Consequently, you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse should continue to provide constant nurturing care during and after your divorce. If the two of you can present a united and caring front, your young kids may have an easier time accepting the end of your marriage.

Use age-appropriate language

Divorce is an adult concept that toddlers and other young children typically cannot grasp. By using age-appropriate language, you may help your kids wrap their heads around your divorce. You should not expect your kids to understand your divorce immediately, though. Put simply, you may have to have dozens of short conversations to help your children cope.

Do not assign blame

You probably have some very valid reasons for divorcing your spouse. You do not want to paint your husband or wife as a bad person, however. Thus, you should resist the urge to assign blame. You should also tell your kids they are not the reason your marriage is drawing to a close.

If your young children are struggling to understand or accept your impending divorce, it may be time to bring in some professional help. Ultimately, a family counselor or therapist may be able to help you bridge the communication gap.